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“When it comes to adults, it can be a little more difficult to extend that type of “pre-forgiveness” to borrow a term from my friend Mathew Portell. But unconditional positive regard does not mean releasing people from responsibility for their actions or agreeing with everything they do or say. Instead, it means recognizing that “if you truly love someone, you would hold them accountable for the harm they are causing” (Haga, 2020, p. 131) and that holding someone accountable can be done with everyone’s dignity and inherent value intact.”

This quote from Chapter 12 I literally want to print out and read over and over again. I also find it difficult to forgive adults and yet it’s also so important.

Her point about 1) first making sure any harm is stopped right away 2) engaging in conversation

is such a helpful and practical way to think about how to approach difficult yet crucial conversations with adults in our community. It’s literally what will help us to become everyday changemakers.

So grateful for this reading experience! Although I’d been wanting to read this for a long time, this gave me the push and the community I needed in order to read it. Taking it slowly and in conversation was really the most effective - and fun! - way for me to read this.

Will you guys be doing another read in 2025??

Happy New Year! 🥳

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Love this!!!

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